Responsibility in Conflict Resolution

He said that I am self-righteous. I’m always right. I can’t be wrong. A few weeks ago, I made a very simple mistake of poor timing and miscommunication that resulted in me being accused of dishonesty. I can see how it is possible but it wasn’t my intention. It has been blown out to massive proportions. My now ex-client cited further evidence of inconsistent, incongruous miscommunications over the duration of our working relationship. Naturally, this Read more…

An Open Letter to Men in Leadership

Dear Men in Leadership: I can see how successful you are. I can see how you’ve spent your life striving, trying to get better jobs, greater responsibilities, and higher management positions. I can see how hard you’ve worked. You’re at the top of your game. And yet, for all this success, do you secretly feel like you’re going nowhere in life? It’s quite a contradicting predicament, isn’t it? Do you feel your thoughts are conflicted? Read more…

Bitten by the Shiny Object-itis Bug ***BIG*** Time

Last Friday, I attended a free seminar by the Speaker’s Institute. Typically, these events spruik and splutter about how brilliant they are but don’t deliver tangible value. In this instance, I was pleasantly mistaken and left with techniques I’ve been able to apply straight away. What I also saw was the bird’s eye view of the NLP-based sales techniques I’ve been trained in. It reminded me that months ago, I recognised the same techniques being Read more…

Success means I am wealthy

I just gave my friend Ruby a bit of coaching advice that I need to take myself. In answer to why she keeps putting off running her meditation classes, I asked her why she’s sabotaging her success. I asked her what benefit is she getting from not being successful and maintaining this lack of success? This benefit is a secondary gain, a positive reinforcement that she’s getting from something negative or from a belief she has Read more…

According to Whose Standard?

In the back of my mind over the last few days has been wondering why I’m not motivated to aspire towards something truly great and world-changing. I once said I wanted to be the Australian, female Tony Robbins, but that isn’t true. I don’t want the team or the infrastructure it’ll take to create that kind of thought leadership. I don’t want the sense of permanency to one location. All I’ve ever wanted was to Read more…

The Secondary Gain of Stuttering

He stood behind the microphone in a small, dimly lit outdoor bar in central Yarraville last night and tried to speak. Except, the words, they failed to come easily. I could see his jaw adjusting, trying to make the right movements. I could see his tongue moving to make the right sounds. The concentration etched across his brow as he found the ability to tell us he stutters. And with this bravery, the effort clear, Read more…

Use Perceptual Readiness to Create Powerful Goals

Goals are typically future-orientated, something to aspire and work towards. From the book, ‘Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do,’ by John Bargh, I’m learning that we make micro-goals all the time. These micro-goals affect our present-time decision-making and impact future events without our conscious awareness. Hunger is an unconscious goal the body gives to receive fuel. At a networking event, I might have the conscious micro-goal to be memorable so Read more…

Hermaphroditic Energy

I have been asked to give a talk early next year to an association for women in IT. Long story short, the conversation I had with the organiser lead me to seek a way to support more women find their voice when they find themselves as the only woman in a meeting. I thought this was a fascinating idea. And yet, upon researching it, I realised it wouldn’t be sufficient to simply talk to women Read more…

Experiencing Self-awareness

In a recent talk about self-awareness, I gave an example of my own experience with being aware. Preparing for the talk really surprised me. About four days before, I began to feel a heightened pressure in my chest. As time passed, I began to recognise a nervousness quite unlike anything I’ve experienced before. I put these feelings down to normal nerves before giving a talk. Except that these feelings got worse and worse. I couldn’t figure Read more…