Today, upon hearing about my work, a person commented, “Oh, my brother doesn’t have any emotional intelligence.” Ah, yeah. Nah. He does. It’s a myth that we either have or don’t have emotional intelligence. We all have emotional intelligence. EQ is a set of emotional and social skills that you Read more…
A cupcake doesn’t make itself. It requires planning. There is a recipe, ingredients, preparations in the form of measuring, melting, mixing, heating of the oven… There’s nothing worse than getting mid-bake and discovering you don’t have enough of a key ingredient. You didn’t plan adequately and now you either need Read more…
For most of my life, I’ve been told I need to tone myself down, to be less assertive, to be less … something they didn’t like or want to accept about me. My reaction used to be that I would care too much about their opinion of me, it would Read more…
It would be erroneous to put one’s leadership style under an umbrella term, like servant or transformational. As a result of globalisation, a leader isn’t ‘or’, they are ‘and.’ They are servant and transformational, and all other leadership nomenclatures. Global leadership requires the leader to be malleable to those they lead and Read more…
He called me nasty. It wasn’t a mistake, he repeated it several times. My hurt was immediate and evident, I could feel the tears begin to well. I ended the video call promptly with a “can we discuss this later, I need to take a moment?” A go-to tool I Read more…
I believed it to be true, after all, they did that thing and said those words with that tone. It must have been what was intended. But, what proof did I have of their actual intention? So I asked. And as sure as the sky was blue that day I Read more…
And you are. Enough, that is. You’re more than enough. Right now, just as you are. You are enough. Say it. I am enough. Say it again and again. Out loud. With a clear, determined voice. Print this image and place it on every frequently seen wall and mirror, and Read more…
Nadia had just told Andile that she’d broken up with her boyfriend, paraphrasing, she said, “I’m sad, but I’m not broken. It’s that conversation I had with you where I feel like men are disposable to me.” As she sweeps her bangs from her forehead, she continues, “And I know Read more…
I had just come off the stage in LA when the event organiser said, “I thought you would have been better, you seem so confident in person. At least you’re easily forgettable.” ‘Ahh, thank you, and feck you very much,’ I thought & so desperately wanted to say. That D Read more…
He called you dumb if you believe the Influencer’s BS: “It’s not easy to make $10k a month online,” said one of my favourite BS-smashing Influencers, Luke Matthews. “Influencers are lying to you, and you are dumb for believing it…” He inspired me to think of a kind way to call Read more…