I believed it to be true, after all, they did that thing and said those words with that tone. It must have been what was intended.
But, what proof did I have of their actual intention?
So I asked.
And as sure as the sky was blue that day I did not have all the facts.
I had told myself a story. I had crafted a perfect piece of fiction.
It wasn’t their intention. They gave me more context so I had all the facts. I could now write the true account story.
Are you sure of your account of the story?
Tell the story in bullet form. Put each piece of information into two columns:
1. What is fact?
That is, the things that happened that you can undeniably prove.
2. What is fiction?
Anything behind communication – tone, body language, cultural influences; emotions; thoughts; ideas; beliefs; intent.
With this list, seek to prove all fiction with questions, curiosity and open-mindedness. Seek feedback.
Assume you do not have all the information. Until you do, you’ve fictionalised your reality.
Need help? Ask your coach.
Don’t have one? You’re in luck, ask me. I happen to be awesome at Fact vs Fiction Reality Checks.