In the past three weeks since the birth of my second child, I’ve come to appreciate just how different I am from who I was when I had my first child.
Over the course of six years since No.1’s birth, I have studied NLP, Hypnotherapy and Time Line Therapy® and become a certified emotional intelligence assessor and coach. And, last year, commenced studying an MBA online.
All this study wasn’t only to benefit the clients I would later help, it directly impacted who I was and who I’ve become.
It wasn’t until the experience of these last few weeks that I’ve come to truly appreciate just how much better a person I am.
Having a second child has given me clarity on just how far I’ve come. I am living testament to the benefits of continuous personal development and improvement. And I know that I still have a lot of growth to come. I’ll never be done.
Motherhood taught me a lot but applying the tools and resources of practical emotional intelligence taught me a heck of a lot more. Namely, what to do with the challenges and lessons motherhood (and life, and business, and relationships) forced me to learn the hard way.
A prospective coaching client asked me once whether my style of coaching was about changing habits and if so, how long those changes lasted.
“My coaching includes working on your habits,” I confirmed, “more so though, it’s about your performance.
“We learn who you are, what has shaped the person you’ve become, what limits you from achieving your desired outcomes, how you think, feel, and act. Together, we uncover what motivates you, and what values you consciously or unconsciously live by. If needed, we heal past traumas.”
Continuing, I explained, “I coach you to learn how to utilise your EQ in its highest capacity to be a better person in all ways you desire. And with this awareness comes permanent change. I don’t make the change permanent, you do. You make the decision to be a little bit better every day.”
I know how to do all this because I was my first client.
The only way I know how to coach is by living the experience of change before you do. In this way I know how to gradually and compassionately guide you to permanent changes toward being a better person.
A little bit each day really does add up.
