All conflict is a values misalignment

Ah, conflict, you beauteous bitch, I’m onto you. I see you. At your core, you’re misunderstood. You just have values that aren’t lining up. In conflict, each person, team, department, organisation, or country involved has a set of values that are different from the opposing side. Values are attributes that …

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Time, the equal opportunity employer

It’s the one thing that every single one of us has exactly the same. It’s our perspective of time that differs. You can choose to spend two hours binging Netflix or you can choose to spend two hours creating a blog post to share your knowledge with your network. I …

How to give negative feedback

Do you work with someone that does things that drive you absolutely crazy? They’re a nice person but their actions just aren’t conducive to productive work. Did you know – and thanks to Brené Brown for her Dare to Lead inspiration – that it is actually super unkind to not give that person …

Fact vs. Fiction: A Tool to Avoid Assumptions

I believed it to be true, after all, they did that thing and said those words with that tone. It must have been what was intended. But, what proof did I have of their actual intention? So I asked. And as sure as the sky was blue that day I …

How to prepare to be your most authentic self on stage

I had just come off the stage in LA when the event organiser said, “I thought you would have been better, you seem so confident in person. At least you’re easily forgettable.” ‘Ahh, thank you, and feck you very much,’ I thought & so desperately wanted to say. That D …

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You’re dumb: EQ in action

He called you dumb if you believe the Influencer’s BS: “It’s not easy to make $10k a month online,” said one of my favourite BS-smashing Influencers, Luke Matthews. “Influencers are lying to you, and you are dumb for believing it…” He inspired me to think of a kind way to call …

How to make self-improvement easy: 1% better

“If you start out with $100 at the beginning of the year and you were able to increase what you have by 1% every single day, at the end of the year, you would have $3,778.34 = $100 * (1 + 1%) ^ 365. That is 37.78x what you had …

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Create your next moment

It’s quotes like Doc’s that I simultaneously love and am irked by. The idea that I am using this very moment in time to create my next moment based on what I’m presently feeling and thinking is an impossible infinity loop of nonsense that gets me no where and yet, …

Accountability in action

I have an accountability buddy who I speak to weekly for the development of my new Practical Emotional Intelligence course. Last night’s call, however, was less about the progress of our respective projects and more about the dramarama that is my employment status, which from one business consultant to another was …