All conflict is a values misalignment

Ah, conflict, you beauteous bitch, I’m onto you. I see you. At your core, you’re misunderstood. You just have values that aren’t lining up. In conflict, each person, team, department, organisation, or country involved has a set of values that are different from the opposing side. Values are attributes that …

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Methods to Manage Anger

Have you ever watched a pot of water boil? As the flame heats the stainless steel base, tiny pockets of air begin to form, slowly floating to the surface, longing to escape, to breathe, and to be seen and heard. As the heat increases, so does the size of the …

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The Micro-Macro View of Life: How to Manage Life Tax

Have you ever used one of those two-sided mirrors? On one side there is the normal reflection, and on the other is the ultra-zoomed-in, micro, super up-close-and-way-too-personal view of all the pores, hairs, and grossity-gross stuff. In this view, it’s easy to get trapped in the ugly. There is wayyyy …

How to prepare to be your most authentic self on stage

I had just come off the stage in LA when the event organiser said, “I thought you would have been better, you seem so confident in person. At least you’re easily forgettable.” ‘Ahh, thank you, and feck you very much,’ I thought & so desperately wanted to say. That D …

How completing puzzles helps your growth mindset

One of the only things we’re guaranteed is impermanence. We’re guaranteed that nothing will ever be the same, remain as it is and as we’d like it to be. Many people fear the idea of this. I love it. I love that we can’t rely on anything to remain the …

One Conversation to Solve Your Problems

A daily habit as I get ready in the morning is to ask the question, what problem do I have that one conversation today will bring me one step closer to its solution? Recently, I realised I had fallen out of this habit because I found myself after two weeks …

There’s No Long-term ROI on an Employee Assistance Program

It cannot be denied that the return on investment (ROI) for your company’s Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is realised in solutions for their employee’s immediate concerns. In the short-term (<6 mth), the results are better performance, more focus and greater motivation. These are great for the employee’s mental and emotional …

The Opportunity Redundant NAB Employees Can Embrace

As a NAB business customer and a founding member of their coworking space, NAB Village, I am in a unique position to see the insides of a corporate company from the employees perspective without actually being an employee. The news late last year that NAB was to make redundant 6000 people’s …

The Perseverance Cycle

The inspiration for this post has come at the perfect time for a client of mine. Let’s call her Sally. Sally is working to balance her emotional well being. Part of that process is to learn how to set and accomplish goals, while I hold her accountable and provide support …

Your Reactions Are Your Responsibility

A client told me about an experience with her husband. He’s Hungarian, and apparently, Europeans like to snack in the middle of the night. Not a ‘take something from the fridge’ type of snack, but a full-fledged bread, cheese, hot salami and sliced tomato snack. The snack is not the …