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Real-Life Coaching vs an AI Coach: It’s Not the End of Coaching

I listened with curiosity as the webinar host used their in-house AI tool to demonstrate its capability. I heard my internal voice speak with pessimism, “How good could it possibly be?” The host asked the AI to perform the role of coach. I was shocked at how good the AI was at asking coaching-style questions to explore the host’s challenge. No word of a lie, as the demonstration went on for the next 10 minutes, Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

How do you talk to yourself? Self-compassion techniques to be kinder.

I can be kind of brutal. What about you? I was listening to the Ten Percent Happier podcast this morning. Host Dan Harris interviewed meditation teacher, author, and musician Ofosu Jones-Quartey about self-compassion. I particularly appreciated the techniques Ofosu provided for ways to be more compassionate with ourselves. I could hear my mental dialogue, seeing them on my coaching techniques go-to list while my heart was saying, “No, wait, hang up a sec, oooohhh… I Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

All conflict is a values misalignment

Ah, conflict, you beauteous bitch, I’m onto you. I see you. At your core, you’re misunderstood. You just have values that aren’t lining up. In conflict, each person, team, department, organisation, or country involved has a set of values that are different from the opposing side. Values are attributes that are important to us. They drive our thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and actions, and they ought to also be the mechanisms that guide the decisions we Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

How to become your ideal self

You’re not yet who you’re truly capable of being. Do you know how to get to that ideal, best version of yourself? Where we want to get to in our work together is a confident Ideal Self with high self-esteem who is inner-directed, and a strong utilisation of emotional intelligence. To become your ideal self, there is a framework that I like to use with my clients, which utilises the Self-Concept Model. As my coachee, Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

My dream job is Wendy Rhoades from “Billions”

This scene of Wendy Rhoades as a high performance coach in the US TV show, “Billions,” sums up my dream job, only, naturally, without the hyperbolic storylines & extreme narcissism. Wendy is there to sort your head out so you can be the best you can be at work. She helps you see what’s right in front of you and she gets you out of your own way. Damn. I would love to do that Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

Cultural Influence: An insight into Nigerian wedding culture

Traditional Nigerian weddings are a sensational opportunity to immerse deep into culture. Done traditionally, the asking and giving away of bride to groom and responsibilities of each family is really special to watch. Recently, my African King was a groomsman. To see how respectful he was of the full process made me long for our own experience. You see, my King & I didn’t have a traditional wedding. In fact, we barely had a wedding. We married Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago
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I’m not being racist, but: How the word “but” negates positive intent in communication

I’m not being racist, but … I think you’re wonderful, but you can occasionally be needy. I’m grateful for all that you’re doing, but I’m wondering if you could do this part again? You don’t hear wonderful; you hear needy. You don’t think I’m grateful at all. You think that I think your work isn’t good enough. It doesn’t matter what positive intent comes before the word “but” because your brain has automatically cancelled it Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

Time, the equal opportunity employer

It’s the one thing that every single one of us has exactly the same. It’s our perspective of time that differs. You can choose to spend two hours binging Netflix or you can choose to spend two hours creating a blog post to share your knowledge with your network. I can choose to spend an hour fat-thumbing Linky and not remember a thing afterwards. Or, I can choose to spend that time playing Hot Wheels Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago
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What to do when friends don’t make an effort

How many times do you knock on the door of a friend’s house before leaving when they don’t answer? Two times? Three? Some friendships are a lot like knocking on a door that never gets answered. You want your friends to open the door, welcome you with a wonderful embrace, invite you in, and share their lives with you. Yet, not all friends are like this. They’re home, but they don’t answer the door. That Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago

Be the Sun, Not the Wind, says an Ancient Greek fable: A Lesson in Leadership

The North Wind and the Sun were disputing which was the stronger, when a traveler came along wrapped in a warm cloak. They agreed that the one who first succeeded in making the traveler take his cloak off should be considered stronger than the other. The North Wind blew as hard as he could, but the more he blew the more closely did the traveler fold his cloak around him. At last the North Wind Read more

By CaronMargarete, ago