‘Ahh, thank you, and feck you very much,’ I thought & so desperately wanted to say.
That D bag’s comment would haunt me for the next 7 years.
Like a pill going down your throat without water, I came to realise with every subsequent talk, there was a painful truth to his words I had to swallow.
I had become sooooo bloody good at being confident in small groups.
I would have centre stage of my small circle of new connections, laughing at my sass, stories, and appropriately apologetic, occasional, soft-porn swearing.
He was right…
At some point in time that was so unremarkable I never took note, I stopped FEELING fake. I had genuinely become more confident in what I was talking about.
Remember that “you’re dumb” post I wrote a few days ago?
It was one of my most popular posts on LinkedIn. Not one of you gave a hoot about my pain. Many of you remarked that you loved how I wrote.
Not what, how.
This is telling because it was the first time I had ever written like I talk in real life.
Yesterday, I decided to do a little social experiment.
I spoke at the 3rd Annual Executive Assistant Congress. I made the conscious decision to be myself on stage.
It takes oodles of courage and days of preparation to be at-ease being yourself on stage (which is why you must always pay your speakers)!
To prepare I did five things:
1. I met with speaker [for the same congress], my dear friend Bron Williams. We talked about what we were going to present & gave constructive feedback. “Timing will be your issue,” she said, “especially as you want audience participation.”
2. I presented the new material to a small audience. Doing so helped me with the order of the content, the pace of the delivery and tested the engagement.
With the content reworked,
3. I journalled what I would say to each slide.
4. I recorded the talk like I was giving a webinar. It came out brilliantly but, still I relied too heavily on the presenter’s notes which meant I was using memory not knowledge.
So finally, navigating the traffic on route to the congress, I decide to test my unconscious mind’s recall of the knowledge.
5. With my bestie on speaker while she looked at the slides, I presented the material. Three times she had to correct which slide I was talking to but this was irrelevant because I proved that with my conscious mind fully engaged on the road, I knew each point I wanted to make with each slide.
Three words sum up my social experiment:
So very me.
If you’d like me to speak at your next event, hit me up. Being myself is sooooo bloody good!!!