Have you ever watched a pot of water boil? As the flame heats the stainless steel base, tiny pockets of air begin to form, slowly floating to the surface, longing to escape, to breathe, and to be seen and heard. As the heat increases, so does the size of the Read more…
Today, upon hearing about my work, a person commented, “Oh, my brother doesn’t have any emotional intelligence.” Ah, yeah. Nah. He does. It’s a myth that we either have or don’t have emotional intelligence. We all have emotional intelligence. EQ is a set of emotional and social skills that you Read more…
For most of my life, I’ve been told I need to tone myself down, to be less assertive, to be less … something they didn’t like or want to accept about me. My reaction used to be that I would care too much about their opinion of me, it would Read more…
And you are. Enough, that is. You’re more than enough. Right now, just as you are. You are enough. Say it. I am enough. Say it again and again. Out loud. With a clear, determined voice. Print this image and place it on every frequently seen wall and mirror, and Read more…
I had just come off the stage in LA when the event organiser said, “I thought you would have been better, you seem so confident in person. At least you’re easily forgettable.” ‘Ahh, thank you, and feck you very much,’ I thought & so desperately wanted to say. That D Read more…
In a conversation whose responsibility is it to be understood? The speaker, right? Yes, and, the listener is responsible too. As the speaker, you’re responsible for making sure you’re understood. As the listener, you have a responsibility to ask clarifying questions so you can better understand. And, as the speaker, Read more…
Two different employers, same issue with employee’s pay. Two very different ways of handling it. The employee’s pay didn’t hit their accounts as scheduled. Employer A told the employee to check their account, stating it must be a problem with their bank because he was paid. After the employee did Read more…
One of my favourite things to do is to listen. I like to listen to the words used, how they’re pronounced, what they represent, their tone. I love listening to body language and listening to what’s not being said verbally. Taken from ambiguity.acm.org: “Have you ever heard the adage that communication Read more…
In the past three weeks since the birth of my second child, I’ve come to appreciate just how different I am from who I was when I had my first child. Over the course of six years since No.1’s birth, I have studied NLP, Hypnotherapy and Time Line Therapy® and become Read more…
Goals are typically future-orientated, something to aspire and work towards. From the book, ‘Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do,’ by John Bargh, I’m learning that we make micro-goals all the time. These micro-goals affect our present-time decision-making and impact future events without our conscious Read more…