Why they stop listening the moment you start nagging

Elena* and I are at a local soccer match; she’s a soccer mum like me. Only she’s not a huge fan of the sport and attends just to be seen to support her stepson and her husband, the assistant coach, when she’d rather be literally anywhere else. She looks tired; …

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The Science Behind the EQ-i 2.0 Model of Emotional Intelligence

What is the EQ-i 2.0 Model? The EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence is an online assessment tool that produces an overall snapshot of one’s emotional intelligence. The Emotional Quotient Inventory (EQ-i®) and the EQ 360® have been instrumental in helping individuals and organisations predict and improve human performance. The …

How do you talk to yourself? Self-compassion techniques to be kinder.

I can be kind of brutal. What about you? I was listening to the Ten Percent Happier podcast this morning. Host Dan Harris interviewed meditation teacher, author, and musician Ofosu Jones-Quartey about self-compassion. I particularly appreciated the techniques Ofosu provided for ways to be more compassionate with ourselves. I could …

How to become your ideal self

You’re not yet who you’re truly capable of being. Do you know how to get to that ideal, best version of yourself? Where we want to get to in our work together is a confident Ideal Self with high self-esteem who is inner-directed, and a strong utilisation of emotional intelligence. …

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Methods to Manage Anger

Have you ever watched a pot of water boil? As the flame heats the stainless steel base, tiny pockets of air begin to form, slowly floating to the surface, longing to escape, to breathe, and to be seen and heard. As the heat increases, so does the size of the …

We all have Emotional Intelligence

Today, upon hearing about my work, a person commented, “Oh, my brother doesn’t have any emotional intelligence.” Ah, yeah. Nah. He does. It’s a myth that we either have or don’t have emotional intelligence. We all have emotional intelligence. EQ is a set of emotional and social skills that you …

Other people’s opinions are none of your business

For most of my life, I’ve been told I need to tone myself down, to be less assertive, to be less … something they didn’t like or want to accept about me. My reaction used to be that I would care too much about their opinion of me, it would …

I am Enough

And you are. Enough, that is. You’re more than enough. Right now, just as you are. You are enough. Say it. I am enough. Say it again and again. Out loud. With a clear, determined voice. Print this image and place it on every frequently seen wall and mirror, and …

How to prepare to be your most authentic self on stage

I had just come off the stage in LA when the event organiser said, “I thought you would have been better, you seem so confident in person. At least you’re easily forgettable.” ‘Ahh, thank you, and feck you very much,’ I thought & so desperately wanted to say. That D …

The responsibility in communication to be understood

In a conversation whose responsibility is it to be understood? The speaker, right? Yes, and, the listener is responsible too. As the speaker, you’re responsible for making sure you’re understood. As the listener, you have a responsibility to ask clarifying questions so you can better understand. And, as the speaker, …