Dispelling the myth of empathy: A case study

Two different employers, same issue with employee’s pay. Two very different ways of handling it. The employee’s pay didn’t hit their accounts as scheduled. Employer A told the employee to check their account, stating it must be a problem with their bank because he was paid. After the employee did …

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Learn through the power of listening

One of my favourite things to do is to listen. I like to listen to the words used, how they’re pronounced, what they represent, their tone. I love listening to body language and listening to what’s not being said verbally. Taken from ambiguity.acm.org: “Have you ever heard the adage that communication …

Use Perceptual Readiness to Create Powerful Goals

Goals are typically future-orientated, something to aspire and work towards. From the book, ‘Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do’, by John Bargh, I’m learning that we make micro-goals all the time. These micro-goals affect our present-time decision-making and impact future events without our conscious awareness. …

The process of reprogramming

Essential to the work of becoming grounded is the task of slowly, kindly reprogramming my mind, heart and soul. Reprogramming, that is, taking a program I am operating under — be that an action I am doing repetitively, an attitude I have, a belief I’m using to limit myself or …

LinkedIn Hiatus: Emotional wellbeing in action

Yesterday, the surprising news that friends were due to depart this Friday in their renovated bus to live location independent with their two children triggered me. It was mental illness in action. Until this bout of insomnia now, I didn’t realise why. I wouldn’t have learned of their departure if …

The pressure of judgement: Self-compassion

Yesterday my CBF factor was strong. I don’t create well if I feel forced so I didn’t post a Flower Affirmation card. It is more important to me that I respect my present needs and show myself kindness and patience than to pretend it’s important to post on this platform …

Accountability in action

I have an accountability buddy who I speak to weekly for the development of my new Practical Emotional Intelligence course. Last night’s call, however, was less about the progress of our respective projects and more about the dramarama that is my employment status, which from one business consultant to another was …

Cost Benefit Analysis of being COVID Unvaxxed

One of the hardest things to do when you’re feeling hurt and disappointed is to find things to be grateful for. Your Emotional Intelligence is comprised of building blocks, commencing with getting to know yourself and topped off with how you manage stress. Of your stress management skills is how well …

Aging as a Software Upgrade: v4.0

Each year, I don’t consider aging. I iron out the bugs and upgrade my software with new & improved functionality. I recently upgraded to v4.0, a birthday which represents a new decade and a brand new operating system. My gf Kym sent me a deck of her incredible flower affirmation …