How to become your ideal self

You’re not yet who you’re truly capable of being. Do you know how to get to that ideal, best version of yourself? Where we want to get to in our work together is a confident Ideal Self with high self-esteem who is inner-directed, and a strong utilisation of emotional intelligence. …

The emotional intelligence of compassion

In a workshop, I delivered last week on Practical Emotional Intelligence for Beginners, one of my attendees interjected with his own interpretation of the difference between sympathy and empathy, two terms that are often confused with each other. It got me to thinking, do I really know what the differences …

The Secondary Gain of Your Problems

He stood behind the microphone in a small, dimly lit outdoor bar in central Yarraville and tried to speak. Except, the words, they failed to come easily. I could see his jaw adjusting, trying to make the right movements. I could see his tongue moving to make the right sounds. …

Priming in Our Everyday Life: A Cultural Psychology Experiment

From the book, Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do, by John Bargh, I learned about priming. Priming is a methodology that demonstrates how cultural ideologies and values operate unconsciously to influence a person’s judgements and behaviours. In the application of NLP, we know that the unconscious mind …

The Number One Problem My Clients Experience

I was coaching a woman in her 50s with a new sales technique, in the way she held her body, the language it spoke I knew that she wasn’t able to exhibit confidence because she didn’t believe she was enough. A man, head of his department of a national company, …

Learn Your Preferred Representational System

Our representational system is our preferred way to communicate based on how we filter the sensory input from the world around us. We know that words are approximately 7% of what we communicate, and yet, what you’re going to learn here is how to communicate using words that are included …

Can We Talk About Depression Without Getting Depressed?

Can we do that? Can we have a chat about depression without getting depressed ourselves? I’m honestly not sure but here goes. The news of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain’s deaths affected me more than they ought to have. I didn’t know them personally but felt associated with them like so …

The Perseverance Cycle

The inspiration for this post has come at the perfect time for a client of mine. Let’s call her Sally. Sally is working to balance her emotional well being. Part of that process is to learn how to set and accomplish goals, while I hold her accountable and provide support …