I am blessed that my mother is a midwife. Perhaps it is because I had a deep trust in her ability to be my birth advocate, or perhaps it was a deep faith in my body’s innate ability to follow the course of the millennia of mothers before me that …
Why they stop listening the moment you start nagging
Elena* and I are at a local soccer match; she’s a soccer mum like me. Only she’s not a huge fan of the sport and attends just to be seen to support her stepson and her husband, the assistant coach, when she’d rather be literally anywhere else. She looks tired; …
How to Achieve Grounded Presence Amid the Chaos
My day begins with a full cup of patience, and by the end of the day, once my capacity for more is depleted to almost zero, my cup is nearly empty of its patience, tolerance, and understanding. It used to result in heightened frustration and eventually a blow-up of frustration …
The Science Behind the EQ-i 2.0 Model of Emotional Intelligence
What is the EQ-i 2.0 Model? The EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence is an online assessment tool that produces an overall snapshot of one’s emotional intelligence. The Emotional Quotient Inventory (EQ-i®) and the EQ 360® have been instrumental in helping individuals and organisations predict and improve human performance. The …
Real-Life Coaching vs an AI Coach: It’s Not the End of Coaching
I listened with curiosity as the webinar host used their in-house AI tool to demonstrate its capability. I heard my internal voice speak with pessimism, “How good could it possibly be?” The host asked the AI to perform the role of coach. I was shocked at how good the AI …
How do you talk to yourself? Self-compassion techniques to be kinder.
I can be kind of brutal. What about you? I was listening to the Ten Percent Happier podcast this morning. Host Dan Harris interviewed meditation teacher, author, and musician Ofosu Jones-Quartey about self-compassion. I particularly appreciated the techniques Ofosu provided for ways to be more compassionate with ourselves. I could …
All conflict is a values misalignment
Ah, conflict, you beauteous bitch, I’m onto you. I see you. At your core, you’re misunderstood. You just have values that aren’t lining up. In conflict, each person, team, department, organisation, or country involved has a set of values that are different from the opposing side. Values are attributes that …
How to become your ideal self
You’re not yet who you’re truly capable of being. Do you know how to get to that ideal, best version of yourself? Where we want to get to in our work together is a confident Ideal Self with high self-esteem who is inner-directed, and a strong utilisation of emotional intelligence. …
My dream job is Wendy Rhoades from “Billions”
This scene of Wendy Rhoades as a high performance coach in the US TV show, “Billions,” sums up my dream job, only, naturally, without the hyperbolic storylines & extreme narcissism. Wendy is there to sort your head out so you can be the best you can be at work. She …
Cultural Influence: An insight into Nigerian wedding culture
Traditional Nigerian weddings are a sensational opportunity to immerse deep into culture. Done traditionally, the asking and giving away of bride to groom and responsibilities of each family is really special to watch. Recently, my African King was a groomsman. To see how respectful he was of the full process made me …