Why they stop listening the moment you start nagging

Elena* and I are at a local soccer match; she’s a soccer mum like me. Only she’s not a huge fan of the sport and attends just to be seen to support her stepson and her husband, the assistant coach, when she’d rather be literally anywhere else. She looks tired; …

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The Science Behind the EQ-i 2.0 Model of Emotional Intelligence

What is the EQ-i 2.0 Model? The EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence is an online assessment tool that produces an overall snapshot of one’s emotional intelligence. The Emotional Quotient Inventory (EQ-i®) and the EQ 360® have been instrumental in helping individuals and organisations predict and improve human performance. The …

How do you talk to yourself? Self-compassion techniques to be kinder.

I can be kind of brutal. What about you? I was listening to the Ten Percent Happier podcast this morning. Host Dan Harris interviewed meditation teacher, author, and musician Ofosu Jones-Quartey about self-compassion. I particularly appreciated the techniques Ofosu provided for ways to be more compassionate with ourselves. I could …

All conflict is a values misalignment

Ah, conflict, you beauteous bitch, I’m onto you. I see you. At your core, you’re misunderstood. You just have values that aren’t lining up. In conflict, each person, team, department, organisation, or country involved has a set of values that are different from the opposing side. Values are attributes that …

We all have Emotional Intelligence

Today, upon hearing about my work, a person commented, “Oh, my brother doesn’t have any emotional intelligence.” Ah, yeah. Nah. He does. It’s a myth that we either have or don’t have emotional intelligence. We all have emotional intelligence. EQ is a set of emotional and social skills that you …

What it takes to be a global leader

It would be erroneous to put one’s leadership style under an umbrella term, like servant or transformational. As a result of globalisation, a leader isn’t ‘or’, they are ‘and.’ They are servant and transformational, and all other leadership nomenclatures. Global leadership requires the leader to be malleable to those they lead and …

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You’re dumb: EQ in action

He called you dumb if you believe the Influencer’s BS: “It’s not easy to make $10k a month online,” said one of my favourite BS-smashing Influencers, Luke Matthews. “Influencers are lying to you, and you are dumb for believing it…” He inspired me to think of a kind way to call …

Dispelling the myth of empathy: A case study

Two different employers, same issue with employee’s pay. Two very different ways of handling it. The employee’s pay didn’t hit their accounts as scheduled. Employer A told the employee to check their account, stating it must be a problem with their bank because he was paid. After the employee did …