How do you talk to yourself? Self-compassion techniques to be kinder.

I can be kind of brutal. What about you? I was listening to the Ten Percent Happier podcast this morning. Host Dan Harris interviewed meditation teacher, author, and musician Ofosu Jones-Quartey about self-compassion. I particularly appreciated the techniques Ofosu provided for ways to be more compassionate with ourselves. I could …

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What to do when friends don’t make an effort

How many times do you knock on the door of a friend’s house before leaving when they don’t answer? Two times? Three? Some friendships are a lot like knocking on a door that never gets answered. You want your friends to open the door, welcome you with a wonderful embrace, …

Other people’s opinions are none of your business

For most of my life, I’ve been told I need to tone myself down, to be less assertive, to be less … something they didn’t like or want to accept about me. My reaction used to be that I would care too much about their opinion of me, it would …

A Tool to Rewire Your Brain: Anytime I, Experience

Anytime we look upon a magazine cover, – insert any advertising example – what we think and feel about ourselves is being controlled by the ideal this cover portrays. It isn’t ideal. Ever. Take back control of your mind with this tool that rewires your brain on a neurological, unconscious …

Use Perceptual Readiness to Create Powerful Goals

Goals are typically future-orientated, something to aspire and work towards. From the book, ‘Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do’, by John Bargh, I’m learning that we make micro-goals all the time. These micro-goals affect our present-time decision-making and impact future events without our conscious awareness. …

How your three brains can unblock your creativity

My friend, Kym, who has inspired this series of posts with her Flower Affirmation cards is the most creative person I know. Correction: She’s one of the most creative people I know. My mother is another with her paintings and sketches. One of my brothers and my father with their …

The process of reprogramming

Essential to the work of becoming grounded is the task of slowly, kindly reprogramming my mind, heart and soul. Reprogramming, that is, taking a program I am operating under — be that an action I am doing repetitively, an attitude I have, a belief I’m using to limit myself or …

LinkedIn Hiatus: Emotional wellbeing in action

Yesterday, the surprising news that friends were due to depart this Friday in their renovated bus to live location independent with their two children triggered me. It was mental illness in action. Until this bout of insomnia now, I didn’t realise why. I wouldn’t have learned of their departure if …

Surrender not by choice

The best advice I was ever given was when I was pregnant with my first: Surrender. When you’re utterly exhausted and he won’t stop crying: Surrender. When feeding just isn’t happening: Surrender. When you’re in public and you’ve just been peed, vomited on or worse and you haven’t got a …