The process of reprogramming

Essential to the work of becoming grounded is the task of slowly, kindly reprogramming my mind, heart and soul. Reprogramming, that is, taking a program I am operating under — be that an action I am doing repetitively, an attitude I have, a belief I’m using to limit myself or …

LinkedIn Hiatus: Emotional wellbeing in action

Yesterday, the surprising news that friends were due to depart this Friday in their renovated bus to live location independent with their two children triggered me. It was mental illness in action. Until this bout of insomnia now, I didn’t realise why. I wouldn’t have learned of their departure if …

Surrender not by choice

The best advice I was ever given was when I was pregnant with my first: Surrender. When you’re utterly exhausted and he won’t stop crying: Surrender. When feeding just isn’t happening: Surrender. When you’re in public and you’ve just been peed, vomited on or worse and you haven’t got a …

The pressure of judgement: Self-compassion

Yesterday my CBF factor was strong. I don’t create well if I feel forced so I didn’t post a Flower Affirmation card. It is more important to me that I respect my present needs and show myself kindness and patience than to pretend it’s important to post on this platform …

How the CliftonStrengths Profile Gave Me Personal Excellence

At the end of 2015, I closed my first business to have my son. After six months of maternity leave, I felt lost and directionless. Full-time mothering wasn’t something I could do, I needed to use my brain for something more than learning how to activate nuts and brew kombucha. …

How to Move From Ego-negative to Ego-positive Behaviour

I had a powerful experience of ego in a conflict that I wrote about in my last article – Responsibility in Conflict Resolution – after which a reader asked me to talk about ego in more detail. Thinking about ego, it made me realise that I do see it differently. …

An Open Letter to [Gen-X] Men

Dear Gen-X men: I can see how successful you are. I can see how you’ve spent your life striving, trying to get better jobs, greater responsibilities, and higher management positions. I can see how hard you’ve worked. You’re at the top of your game. And yet, for all this success, …

Bitten by the Shiny Object-itis Bug ***BIG*** Time

Last Friday, I attended a free seminar by the Speaker’s Institute. Typically, these events spruik and splutter about how brilliant they are but don’t deliver tangible value. In this instance, I was pleasantly mistaken and left with techniques I’ve been able to apply straight away. What I also saw was …