I am blessed that my mother is a midwife. Perhaps it is because I had a deep trust in her ability to be my birth advocate, or perhaps it was a deep faith in my body’s innate ability to follow the course of the millennia of mothers before me that …
How to Achieve Grounded Presence Amid the Chaos
My day begins with a full cup of patience, and by the end of the day, once my capacity for more is depleted to almost zero, my cup is nearly empty of its patience, tolerance, and understanding. It used to result in heightened frustration and eventually a blow-up of frustration …
My dream job is Wendy Rhoades from “Billions”
This scene of Wendy Rhoades as a high performance coach in the US TV show, “Billions,” sums up my dream job, only, naturally, without the hyperbolic storylines & extreme narcissism. Wendy is there to sort your head out so you can be the best you can be at work. She …
Cultural Influence: An insight into Nigerian wedding culture
Traditional Nigerian weddings are a sensational opportunity to immerse deep into culture. Done traditionally, the asking and giving away of bride to groom and responsibilities of each family is really special to watch. Recently, my African King was a groomsman. To see how respectful he was of the full process made me …
You’re dumb: EQ in action
He called you dumb if you believe the Influencer’s BS: “It’s not easy to make $10k a month online,” said one of my favourite BS-smashing Influencers, Luke Matthews. “Influencers are lying to you, and you are dumb for believing it…” He inspired me to think of a kind way to call …
The most beautiful paradox: Writing
I feel this way about writing posts on LinkedIn, do you? It’s such a paradox that I want to share my thoughts and experiences, yet recognise how egotistical it is to do so – as if to say, “why does what I think matter?” And yet, to the people who …
How completing puzzles helps your growth mindset
One of the only things we’re guaranteed is impermanence. We’re guaranteed that nothing will ever be the same, remain as it is and as we’d like it to be. Many people fear the idea of this. I love it. I love that we can’t rely on anything to remain the …
The process of reprogramming
Essential to the work of becoming grounded is the task of slowly, kindly reprogramming my mind, heart and soul. Reprogramming, that is, taking a program I am operating under — be that an action I am doing repetitively, an attitude I have, a belief I’m using to limit myself or …
Society as we now know it: Vaccination Apartheid
A rather contentious card today… Apartheid means “the state of being apart.” It can be interpreted as meaning separation or segregation. It’s a word most commonly associated with South Africa and its race segmentation. I’m beginning to see a new variation of it floating around: Vaccination Apartheid. It refers to …
Aging as a Software Upgrade: v4.0
Each year, I don’t consider aging. I iron out the bugs and upgrade my software with new & improved functionality. I recently upgraded to v4.0, a birthday which represents a new decade and a brand new operating system. My gf Kym sent me a deck of her incredible flower affirmation …